Mark Twain said he could live on a single compliment for two whole weeks
We know that society thrives on negativity and derives pleasure tossing fireballs fast and furiously at those who try to succeed in life.
Our family environment consists of either positive or negative energy which determines the emotional and physical status of our well-being, as well as the levels of enthusiasm and incentive.
We are born with self-confidence. It is our basic foundation; develops during childhood and sculpts itself, forming our adulthood. This precious and ever so fragile commodity eventually makes a stop along the way, taking on still another form called the "False Negative" and the "False Positive" factors, respectively.
The "False Negative" factor is generated when we are stifled, ignored or, held back personally, professionally and/or socially from self-expression or, from demonstrating our skills/talents; hence, preventing us from excelling or achieving success.
The above usually stems from a family history of ill-confident under-achievers; negative friends; negative work environment and, of course, the worst scenario of all, "competitive jealousy" which the writer describes as "disease of the soul."
We are often compared with other family members, friends and co-workers; hence, coerced into competing and proving our ability or, inability to succeed. Subsequently, we sacrifice our self-worth to become "one of them", leaving our hopes, dreams and goals virtually abandoned.
Self-confidence already damaged and psychologically immobilized, we now lend a deaf ear to praise, feeling incapable of succeeding.
The "False Positive" factor is not only the worst form of self-deception, but is detrimental to both the human being and the human race. This is best described as a lifeboat with a huge hole in its bottom. The family is overly supportive; rewards bad behavior with the "always right/never wrong" theory.
We were never properly schooled or groomed to graciously accept constructive criticism or, justified rejection; hence, we enter the fiercely competitive industry armed with false validation; lack of preparation or proper tools. Subsequently, we are left bewildered and inept of comprehending the "how to" of the real world.
We also find the "learning curve" in the workplace somewhat disconcerting, yet a challenge, especially the 'Team Leader/Team Player" segment. Some of us will resent this type of orientation since we are considered the official family and/or neighborhood "pack leader" and chose to set our own rules rather than follow organizational policies, procedures or protocol.
Scholastic-related, we delude ourselves with the false concept that popularity or "connection" will get us a passing grade. At some point, we are suddenly brought to a jarring halt, rude awakening and the hard-core reality that professors are there for a purpose and expect each student to focus with full commitment. This is the only way courses are passed and Degrees are earned.
Socially, the so-called insecure "high and mighty" will be found sitting or standing alone in the corner or, with only a certain few with whom they can actually relate. They regard everyone/anyone else somewhat beneath them.
In essence, it is a luxury to have just one true friend or, mentor, as a positive "constant"/"go-to" person in our life. This friend accepts us for who we are, yet reminds us when we tend to stray. This friend guides and directs us; also helps us recognize our true potential. We then learn to acquire the strength, incentive and emotional stability to pursue our own dreams and goals, plus survive the odds of a negative and unforgiving society.
Reclaim your self-confidence today.
Mark Twain said he could live on a single compliment for two whole weeks. It takes less oxygen to compliment and more energy to criticize. We live and learn, then we learn to live. Self confidence is as precious as the Hope Diamond.
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